When your computer is giving you trouble, freezes up or starts moving slower than a slug all you have to do is power it off for a second and REBOOT! When our plumbing is clogged, the fridge is on overdrive or our car breaks down we can call the right person, have them fix it and it is new again.
THIS MONTHS QUESTION? What do you do when your life is the thing that needs rebooting?
Sometimes we are just going along in life and don’t even realize something is wrong until we notice we have been wearing the same socks for three days and we’re knee deep in a tub of Ben & Jerry’s, booze bottles or Kleenex ( whichever is your personal poison). Then we realize we’re in the place Dr. Seuss calls in his book Oh, the places you’ll go! “The waiting Place” you know when,”bang up and hang ups can happen to you. You can get all hung up in a prickly perch and your gang will fly on. You’ll be left in a lurch. You’ll come down from the lurch with an unpleasant bump and chances are, then, that you’ll be in a slump”.
SO how do we UN-SLUMP? I wish I could tell you that you were really born with a magic reboot button that is in your left elbow. Sorry but you caught me on a day where I am living in reality. So you can play around with that elbow of yours or you can apply some of these steps. The KEY to getting out of any rut is movement!
1) First step is to recognize you are in fact in a lurch. You can not really move forward until you do.
2) Choose responsibility over guilt and anger. You could be mad at yourself that instead of running 5 miles you ate an entire pie while watching really bad reality TV and then feel guilty and shameful. ( Yep that will feel real good inside ) Or you could forgive yourself and accept that you are responsible for how you have been spending your time and being in that place will serve you no greater purpose.
3) Ask yourself Why? What happened that led you into the abyss in the first place? You may not want to hear this however, there is always a life lesson behind the slump syndrome. Maybe you’re confused on which path to take, have not let go of a past relationship, or are scared about an upcoming event. As Dr. Suess says ” I’m afraid that sometimes you’ll play lonely games too. Games you can’t win cause you’ll play against you”. You are in this waiting place for a reason and You MUST find the why and face it or you will end up back in the waiting place facing it all over again.
4) Focus on what you do want, not on what you would like not to happen. Thinking of what you don’t want to happen and picturing that outcome bought you a direct ticket to slump town. So instead put your energy and imagination to work by focusing on what you do want. The moment you start to feel blue, confused or any kind of lurchiness at all, you know your mind is not where it should be. STOP IT! Focus on the thoughts and goals that make your skin tingle with passion, the ones that make you want to break out and do the Carlton Dance.
At this point you acknowledged that lurch is not just the butler from the Addams family but a state of mind you may find yourself in. Now you have taken responsibility for your actions, discovered what led you to lurchville in the first place and started to focus on what you do want. It is time to bring that all together by coming up with the Now What?
5) Create a Strategy.
You want to eliminate any behaviors or thoughts that slumped you in the first place. So if you were trying to do too much before, not asking for support, or not following your heart (whatever it is) you don’t want this to be apart of your new strategy because, it did not work! Make a list of things that you want, things that will make you feel better and people you can talk to. Start with one action step toward your goal and then keep adding a new one each week. There is no need for speed. There is a need to stay aware and make sure all your actions are leading you further up the mountain side.
In Dr. Seuss’ words ” So …be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray you’re off to great places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting. So…get on your way!